i just came from green hills and i feel weird! parang you wana pee na hindi na excited ka over something pero hindi mo alam kung ano..ganun ka weird.... ??? Feeling ko parang ang complex ng buhay ko parang andaming nangyayaring hindi ko inaasahan but then i guess that's how life is supposed to be..complex and confusing. Mel and I went to Booksale kanina ang i bought this book about appreciating the litte, simple, common things in life. Those things that we often neglect or overlook, things that we take for granted. Seeing the book reminded me of another philo class and also ambeth's history class. Even though frustrating makinig kay dr. garcia, the topic he's discussing makes sense naman so i suggest that we all read the book! hahaha and ask the assistants about the lesson na lang hehe baaaad! oh well..

I wanna post oli's thoughts about the topic of my first boyfriend should be my husband there are some parts from me mixed inside rin..

I won't deny that this idea has crossed my mind a lot of times, but I never did stop to think where this idea came from. I believe that man has this natural craving to be appreciated and to gain recognition, which is why man desires to be successful. Somehow, in our society, when a person understands something or is successful at something he does over the first try, it is considered a bigger achievement than getting it during a second try. Somehow, doing well during the first try is given more weight and meaning. When a girl gets married and she announces that her husband was her first and only boyfriend, people would gush and say, 'Wow!" or "You're so lucky!" This kind of belief simply reinforces the idea that my first boyfriend should be my husband.

This isn't to say that this idea is purely bad or purely good, it really depends on how one or both parties handle the situation/relationship. First relationships are always a trial stage where one tests the water and gets a feel of things. It is when one starts to gain maturity by thinking more of the other person and having a responsibility for that other person. Being in a relationship is the stage when one leaves the self-centered lifestyle for a more mature and other-centered one.

So when things are going well during the 'first try', it is inevitable that one will wish to stay with that person for eternity. This is the romantic point of view of people, of the happily ever afters. After all, the first try really plays a big part in one's relationships because it will set down the standards for other relationships to follow. One can't help but compare succeeding relationships with previous ones--trying to learn from the past. First relationships will always serve as a guide on the do's and don’ts for other relationships to come.
Relying on the idea that my first boyfriend should be my husband also gives one a sense of security that one does not have to keep on searching for the 'right one' by going into one relationship to another. However, this is a false sense of security because I believe that life and relationships are all about taking risks. Risks may give you good or bad news, whichever way, it would help you grow and mature into a better person. If one never takes risks, one will never progress. It is in taking the first step that one is able to walk for miles.

So during the times when the purpose of the relationship does not get fulfilled, both parties can still work things out through communication and by renewing their perspective in the relationship. However, it is not necessary to keep on focusing on the idea that my first boyfriend should be my husband, using it as the reason why the couple should work things out. If things really seem unmendable, then one should not force it just because you want to get married to the person. Because if you do, it would just end up in a divorce, making your efforts pointless

I just want to comment again about risks... wala lang, recently kc we took a risk in our relationship and i feel that even though it was really really hard, it was worth it and is still worth it and will be worth it. You know when you have an intution, when you know that something will work out and will bring things to a better height? Wala lang...i am just amazed how complicated life could get and how simple-minded i could be because i'm just starting to understand things now after 3 years and 8 months++ of being together. I'm just starting to understand the purspose of things, thank you to Fr. Dacanay's theo class for the added enrichment...

I feel that i have grown wiser through experience...i feel giving motherly advice right now hehe... i just want to tell those kiddies who are getting into bf/gf relationships not to take things as if they're playing games.Not to go into a relationship just for the heck of it, just to be in, just because someone's knocking on your door. The purpose of relationships are supposed to make you more mature, to enhance spiritual growth in both parties! The purpose of genuine love is spiritual growth, genuine love is circular, genuine love is an act of will, genuine love requires effort! haaaay wow talaga i can't wait for theo class kasi parang meron akong mini- relationship guide from fr dacanay.....